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Tame a Tantrum

Use these 5 ways to tame a tantrum.

1. Anticipate the “triggers”

When your child is sick, hungry, tired, or over-whelmed, he is more likely to fall prey to his emotions. Keep meals and naps as consistent as possible. Transitions, such as leaving the park or getting dressed, are also common triggers for explosions. Give your child advance notice of what’s coming next throughout the day.

2. Let her have it

The temper tantrum, that is. There comes a time when your child is so emotional that trying to stop the meltdown is futile. Allow your child to express her feelings instead of minimizing or trying to overrule her emotions.

3. Offer support

Articulate your child’s feelings for him. “You are upset that you can’t have another cookie.” Even though your words won’t change his behavior, you are teaching him how to express himself. Eventually, he will learn that using words is more effective than crying or kicking.

4. Stay close

But not too close. Children will often stop inappropriate behavior when they no longer have an audience. As long as your child is safe from harm, step out of sight for a moment. Let your child know that you’ll be there when she is ready to calmly rejoin you.

5. Exit gracefully

The worst temper tantrums seem to happen at the family reunion or in a crowded grocery store. When you begin to feel that all eyes are on you, don’t let peer pressure increase your anxiety. Lovingly pick up your child and swiftly vacate. Go to the car or somewhere private until you and your child calm down.

Lynn Ticknor

Parent & Child, Oct. 2007

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